Category Archives: Happy Life Tips


View Your Recovering Future Twice Daily

In early recovery, it’s generally best to follow a program that has worked for others. There’s no one approach that’s best for everyone. Today, you should have several options available to choose from. In early recovery, select a program that is easy and simple for you to follow. Your first program doesn’t need to be complicated or intense.

A thriving life demands an adaptable, flexible, and expandable style. The order of the following task areas is only a suggestion; however, all seven are important.

 Your Approach:   Learning and Using Effective Resources – How you enter and think about recovery highly affects your outcome.

Find: Support, guidance, modeling.

Develop: Recovery and spiritual practices.

Your Recovery Skills:  Foundation – Follow a path that has proven its value. Set up your recovery plan for primary and secondary addictions, create a relapse prevention plan, learn tools and strategies, and use reminders to remember to practice and to employ these tools and strategies often.

Your Awareness Opportunity – Use each opportunity to learn about yourself, recovery and relapse issues, tools and strategies, and faith; take responsibility, make clearer and better choices. Without awareness you have no chance to succeed.

Managing Your Life:  Responsibility – Managing change: Take care of yourself by developing your mental, emotional, nutritional, physical, social, and spiritual health, as well as your recovery and relationships. Find a recovery guide (someone who has already done this) to help you.

Your Personal Work:  Resolving and Managing Issues – Problem solving model: Examine addictions, family history, problem solving and conflict resolution styles; deal with emotions, physical and relationship issues, relapse triggers and symptoms, and Post Acute Withdrawal Symptoms (PAWS).

Your Personal Growth Expanding, Engaging, and Living Fully – Observe, assess, and evolve; pursue social, emotional, physical, and spiritual growth; engage in the purposeful life that you want.

Accept and Embrace Mental-Emotional Shifts

Your Mental Shifts:  Expanding Perception and Focus – Major mental and emotional (paradigm) shifts will happen when you gain significant knowledge and perspective about yourself. Your attitudes, beliefs, emotions, identity, self-esteem, recovery, and spirituality will all be affected and change.


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Summertime Setback Series – Part One

Summer Seasonal Affective Disorder

Summertime SAD

Many people are familiar with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which for some is the onset of the “winter blues”. There are people who get SAD in “reverse”.

Reverse seasonal affective disorder affects less than 1/10th of those suffering with SAD, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. Also, like winter-onset SAD, reverse seasonal affective disorder returns every year at about the same time.

The lack of sunlight is linked to winter SAD.  It is thought that summer SAD is caused by too much sunlight. This may lead to changes in melatonin production in the brain. An additional theory is a person’s circadian rhythms are altered because one might stay up later in the summer. Summer SAD seems to be more frequent in areas prone to warmer summers such as in southern states while the winter SAD is more common in areas with colder winters as in the northern states.

Source: Photo: Wikimedia Commons

Melatonin is a powerful antioxidant and free radical scavenger that serves to protect the brain. By reducing melatonin production, SAD increases the risk for depression and other mood disorders.

The Dangers of SAD for Addicts in Recovery

Seasonal affective disorder can be dangerous for people in recovery. This is particularly true when the individual has no idea what is causing the discomfort. If people feel that the joy has gone in their recovery, then they may begin to miss their addiction. The symptoms of SAD will also get in the way of the individual’s ability to build a new life away from the addiction. Once the problem is identified, it is almost always possible to bring it under control.

Symptoms of Summer SAD

Symptoms specific to summer-onset seasonal affective disorder, sometimes called summer depression, may include:

  • Depression
  • Trouble sleeping (insomnia)
  • Weight loss
  • Poor appetite
  • Agitation or anxiety

Tips to Help Cope with Summer SAD

  • Plan ahead.You will feel more in control if you have plans in place, such as vacation arrangements and when to take time off from work.
  • Sleep. It’s important to maintain good sleep habits in the summer. Even though vacations and summer barbecues encourage you to stay up later, make sure to keep your sleep schedule the same. Not getting enough sleep is a common trigger for depression. So make a concerted effort to get to bed on time: and wake up at the same time every morning. Try not to sleep much less than 7 hours and no more than 9 hours a night.
  • Keep up with your exerciseMany studies have found that regular physical activity can help keep depression at bay. Start earlier in the morning or later in the evening, when it’s not so hot. Consider fitness equipment for the cool basement or joining a gym for a couple of months over the summer.
  • Don’t overdo dieting and fitness. Don’t kick off the summer with a frenzy of dieting and exercise to keep up body image. Instead, exercise sensibly and eat moderately. If you try a too restrictive diet, you may not be able to keep it up. And that “failure” will just leave you more demoralized and worsen your summer depression.
  • Protect yourself. Don’t let obligations drag you down. Maybe you always host the annual family gathering on Memorial Day or the July 4 picnic. But if you’re feeling overwhelmed, give it a pass this year. Don’t risk pushing yourself into a summer depression just to live up to tradition.
  • Think about the causes for your worry. If you struggle with summer depression yearly, ask yourself if there may be reason. Do you associate summer with a difficult time in the past? Have you had depression during the summer previously? If you do have some unhappy connection with the summer, thinking it out could help you break the cycle.Relapse
  • Plan your vacation carefully. Don’t get lodged into a vacation that will not feel like a vacation. Is this what you really want? Or is it an obligation you’re fulfilling? Will it make you happy? Will it stretch your finances? Consider alternatives – in place of taking two weeks off at once, perhaps plan to take several long weekends spread out through the summer.

One thing particularly difficult about summer depression is that you feel out of step – everyone else seems happy in the warmer months. Don’t be too hard on yourself. So stop worrying about how you feel relative to other people. Instead, concentrate on what’s triggering your summer depression and how you can overcome it.

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Thriving Beyond Addiction – Things You Don’t Need To Feel Embarrassed About

Do you find yourself apologizing or feeling embarrassed for things out of your control? Being a people-pleaser can be exhausting. We are all human and need to realize that not everything will go to plan. Here are things you should stop feeling about, though many people do:

Remember that there are some things that are out of your control. The key is to accept that life is not perfect. Start quitting now, it’s never too late Thriving Beyond Addiction

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Thriving Beyond Addiction – Free Ways To Feel Happy Right Now

The reality is that happiness is a choice, a decision you can make to take control of your well being, and enjoy life to the fullest. Here are free things you can do to turn that frown upside down and start embracing happiness in your life!

It’s never too late to start over. Try something different today. Thriving Beyond Addiction

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Recovery Coach Tom Rohrer – Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

Change isn’t easy, and that’s why so many people are paralyzed living lives that don’t fit them anymore. Transform your life with the help of my book. Call me now at 925-595-6433 or visit my website for more information.

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Thriving Beyond Addiction – Tips To Live A Happier Life

Happiness is something that we all strive for, yet many of us find it challenging to grasp and even harder to maintain. With Tom Rohrer you’ll have a happier life while fighting addiction. Here are some tips.

Your happiness depends on you. Feel happier without the burden of being one. Call me now for a free consultation 925-595-6433 or visit my website for more information

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